Does John McCain Understand Women Could Die?

John McCain on NBC’s, Meet the Press, 1/30/00:
Mr. Russert: “A Constitutional Amendment to ban all abortions?”
McCain: “Yes Sir.”
Mr. Russert: “But, Senator, women across the country would say, prior to Roe v. Wade, hundreds of thousands of women a year went to back alleys to have abortions.”
McCain: “I understand that.”
Mr. Russert: “Many died.”
McCain: “I understand that.”

The video speaks for itself.

In only a matter of hours we’ll find out if McCain is going to come clean to the American public about his anti-choice record on birth control, Roe v. Wade, and a woman’s right to choose. But I’m not holding my breath, and would advise you not to either.

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Is the Economic Recession Getting You Down?

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When you’ve walked into an unemployment office and seen hundreds of people filling out paperwork in the hope that somehow, someway, someone in that office will be able to help them find a job, it can be hard to believe that there are actually benefits to an economic recession. They are there, however, and if you’re a savvy business person you’ll be able to figure out how to take advantage of them. How do you think so many companies manage to stay in business when recessions happen at least once a decade?

Major corporations around the globe has learned how to weather an economic recession and keep making a profit, and now you can do it too! Regardless of whether you’re an entry level janitor or the CEO of a major corporation, the recession is going to have an impact on your life personally. The question is, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to let the recession bowl you over and leave you struggling for a way to keep your job and pay your bills? Or are you going to look at it as an opportunity to expand your horizons, stretch your wings and show the world what you can really do?

That was a choice I had to make for myself not too long ago

Two years ago I was sitting pretty. I had a good government job working as a contractor for the military, a good retirement plan, a salary that more than met our needs and an insurance program that kept my kids in antibiotics and vaccines.

All in all, life was looking pretty good. Then the recession hit.

I don’t know if any of you out there were unfortunate enough to be a part of this, but over the last two years military contractors have been steadily laying off hundreds of employees in an attempt to trim the fat from their bottom line and help them stay afloat as government contracts began to be canceled left, right and sideways. Because I had just accepted a new position within the company I was considered to be the new kid on the block, even though I had been working for them for years, and my job was among the first to go.

I was devastated.

Suddenly there I was, with a family to support and no income other than what I had coming in from our investments. I’m not ashamed to say I panicked at first. I couldn’t see how, at my age, I could possibly pick up and start all over again in another job. I’d invested too much time and effort to get where I had been, and the thought of having to climb that ladder all over again was enough to make me want to lock my door and hide for a year or two.

My general fondness for eating on a semi-regular basis got me out the door soon enough, however, and it wasn’t long before I was roaming the streets looking for another job. I was fortunate. I had remained in touch with many of my old college buddies, and one of them happened to work for a firm that had just lost one of its key employees and was looking for someone qualified who would be able to fill his place-quickly.

My friend’s recommendation and my own experience had me inside a new job within a month, but over the course of that month I saw hundreds of other contractors I had worked with who weren’t as lucky. They were out of work for months, many of them taking jobs that were far below their skills, their education and their experience just to have a paycheck.

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I was astonished. If the U.S. government was losing money hand over fist and having to shut down its operations, how on earth were these little start-up companies managing to not only survive, but to thrive?

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Redundant Women: The Effects of Economic Recession on Women

Economic recession is defined to be a period of time (two consecutive quarters) where there is dismal or negative growth in an economy of a specific region or country. Economic recession has different effects on each sector of a nation. A particular sector could experience an impact that could distinctive only in his or her sector.

Women comprises half of the world’s population. During recessions, there is a relative downturn on women’s employment that ever before. Before the United States’ recession in 2001, women were not greatly affected by the economic recession. However, after the 2001 recession in the United States, omen started losing a lot of jobs.

Women also experience low employment rates. Families rely on women’s employment to boost the family income during a recession. According to the United States Bureau of Labor Statistics:

1. When women lose jobs, families lose a substantial share of the income. Women salaries are said to be one third of the whole family budget.

2. Over the past 30 years, families who have a working wife have seen real increases in family income.

3. During the 2001 recession, women were hit harder by unemployment than men.

4. After the recession of 2001, women were able to get back to their jobs but where unable to gain or experience any increase in their employment rates.

5. Women are said to be harder hit by the 2008 recession since women are disproportionately represented in state and local government services.

Women are also greatly affected by job losses during economic recession. Women are said to be the last person to be hired, but the last person to be fired. Unlike women, men shows stable numbers since United States had experienced the economic recession

Between March 2001 and August 2004, women lost jobs in a number of key industries. Women lost 347,000 jobs in information alone. In retail industries, women lost 367,000 jobs. The biggest lost will be in the manufacturing industry which cost women over a million jobs. These numbers are just in the United States alone.

Unemployment rate among adult women workers rise faster compared to men workers. From 3.8 percent in March 2007 it went up to 4.6 percent in March 2008. There is also a significant effect on the wage of women compared to men. Women’s wages are more unstable than men’s wages.

Women have the tendency or risk of seeing large drops in income than men do. It has been culturally imbedded (based on gender analysis of events) that women’s income just fill in the disparity of men’s wage in terms of providing for the family. Thus women’s wage not being a major source of funds is more at risk of deduction.

In developing countries, women are facing poverty brought about by economic recession blowing out of proportions. With lack of work opportunities and immense poverty, women are forced to enter into prostitution and white slavery.

When economic recession hit in Asia in mid- 1997, women was the hardest hit by the crisis. Many women who have entered these industries come from rural areas because they could no longer sustain themselves and their families. Because of the recession, a lot of employees were released from their work. Women, carrying the burden of providing for their families were provided no other options.

Southeast Asian countries were deeply affected by the financial crisis and were left with social scars. Whenever economic recession or crisis similar to this happens, women and children bear the scars.

Surviving Divorce To Learn To Live Again

Living happily again after divorce can be really a challenge, because separation is one of the most hurting experiences that many families experience. Divorce is not only the end of a wedding, but also the death of some of your hopes and dreams. A divorce can destroy years of shared love with each other in a fraction of a second. Many people find it difficult living again after divorce, therefore here are some tips for surviving divorce to learn to live again.

Learn to Live Tips

* Most often people face difficulties after a divorce, because they never think about life after divorce. One of the best ways to overcome this difficulty is to engage in varied activities. If you try to learn some new activities like music, gardening or drawing, it will definitely help you live happy and contended life after divorce.
* Many people feel awkward to start a new life after divorce and some of them get mad due to this awkwardness. If you feel something like this, do not be afraid, because your friends and family is there with you. They will always support you to overcome this problem and head towards a new life.
* People who are optimistic after the divorce will rarely face many emotional problems. Therefore, optimism after separation is a nice solution for surviving divorce to learn to live again. If you have children, the divorce can cause more disturbing effects in your life. Both of you will have to think about their future life, education and career. You will have to make financial agreements for their future. Some parents have succeeded in providing the necessary facilities to their children in tough economic conditions after the divorce. You can discuss with them about how they managed it.
* While thinking of starting a new life after divorce, you should recognize your loss due to the divorce. The most important thing about recovery is being honest with yourself and you will have to face the actuality of your unsuccessful wedding. You should never run away from this reality and accept it as a natural pain. Sometimes pain too can prove to be a motivator and help you deal with life better.
* People, who suffer from divorce pain, should take care that this pain does not dominate their life and understand the fact that one day this pain will subside. Most often people think that life is over after divorce and they cannot love again. However, if you try to commit yourself to overcome through it, the pain will go away in few days and you will be able to start new life with fresh feelings. You will be able to trust and love again. According to many counselors, divorced people should never waste their time and efficiency in pain. They can invest it in work that can help them in their recovery.

By having a positive attitude and realizing that your entire future lies ahead of you, you can think about surviving divorce to learn to live again. You will have to be much more careful about starting a new life after divorce. So it is better if you think about your new life in advance.

Surviving Divorce Proceedings

Marriage is a serious relationship and therefore a divorce affects the lives of both people. Divorce may give rise to issues related to children, property, etc. Moreover, for many it is a mental set back as well. However, once you have decided for sure that you want to be divorced, you need take care of all important related issues, as doing so will help you in surviving divorce proceedings.

To help with any important issues you may have to face, here are some pointers:

* Whatever the outcome of the divorce may have been concerning children, property, etc, the most important thing is to accept it. The ruling of court that the children should live with your partner instead of you is very heavy decision. However, you should accept it. Feelings of distress over this for a long time will make surviving divorce proceedings difficult.
* Then secondly you have to consider the practical issues because the divorce is about to change your life practically as well. If you were living in your partner’s house then you will need to find a house for yourself. Getting a suitable housing may be a difficult task and you will need to research a bit for this. In the same way, the issues with banks and other kinds of accounts should be resolved as early as possible.
* For surviving divorce proceedings, you should shake yourself free from any guilt of regret. Many people later keep on thinking about the reasons why the divorce occurred. Some of them hold either themselves or their partners responsible for it. They think that they could have avoided the divorce and it was an unnecessary decision. You should not let your thoughts flow in this direction.
* Do not hold yourself or your partner responsible for the divorce. Never develop or keep any frustration in your mind for your partner. Such emotions will only cause unnecessary trouble. Convince yourself that this was the right decision for you as well your partner.
* Convince yourself that whatever has happened was perfectly right and the divorce was a well thought decision. For this, you can reevaluate the conditions and the reasons, which lead to the divorce. Persuade your mind that divorce was the best option for both of you and the situations you were facing.
* Now you should learn to live life without your partner. For this, you need to gain some self-confidence in yourself. You should believe in your capabilities and believe that you can live without your partner both emotionally as well as practically. For surviving divorce proceedings, you can even look at the positive side and the advantages that you will get from the divorce.

For surviving divorce proceedings, you need to continue living your life happily. Getting yourself involved in some kind of activity is a very good idea to get your mind away from what has happened. Friends and family both can play a very important role in such a situation. Therefore, you can spend some time with them. They are always there to help you.

All these things will help you in surviving divorce proceedings. Some people take long time to come out of this event while some are able to adjust quickly to the new surroundings.

Surviving Divorce For Kids

Divorce severely affects children and can sometimes cause a drastic change in their behavior. It is commonly seen that these children experience regression and display aggression towards other children if their parents are undergoing divorce or separation. For example, children whose parents are divorced often quarrel for small things and they prefer to live in isolation.

For kids, surviving divorce can be a daunting task as a divorce is also a stressful situation for children. They start feeling guilty and sad due to the breaking down of their family. When they come to know that the parents will no longer stay with each other, they become sad and are unable to sleep properly. Here are some helpful tips:

* The parent who stays with the children should support them in these bad times. For instance, if your child is being difficult, do not get angry or frustrated. Instead, try to have a chat with him/her and find out what is going on in his/her head. This will help to build your child’s positive feelings. Kids who have not yet started to go to school often hesitate to express their feelings. You should share only essential information with them. Expression of love is very important for kids at this time.
* Children’s peers can also provide additional support to your kids.
* As a parent, you should see that you do not leave your child alone. It is beneficial for your child to be in a childcare center as it helps to understand different types of families.
* You should try to enforce positive discipline amongst your children so that they become good citizens of tomorrow. For example, if your kids are between 6 to 8 years old, then it necessary that you reinforce rules which will help them to develop personal goals.
* If your child performs well in exams or extracurricular activities reward him or her and give positive feedback. When talking to your children, think before you speak and do not use abusive words. “I” messages i.e. commanding language should be avoided, as it will hurt your kid a lot. It is very important that you choose your words carefully.
* You can also play games with your kids along with your ex-spouse. This will help your child understand that his mommy and daddy would love him/her forever, even if they were no longer together.
* Consistency in routines, logical sequences, and a large dose of affection are considered the best tools for surviving divorce for kids. Make sure that your child is not an eyewitness to your anger. You should find safe outlets for your anger. Scolding your child’s father or mother in front of the child can have a negative impact on your kid’s self-esteem. You should not forget that your kid loves his other parent too, therefore if you criticize your ex, your child will definitely feel remorse or discomfort. If you yell or talk abusively to your partner, this will hurt your child. Bad mouthing or screaming at your ex, deeply affects the harmony you share with your kid.

If you really care for your child then you should try to develop a good relationship with your ex. If you cannot be good with your ex then at least be civil. You should never discuss about your ex with your child. The above tips will surely help you in surviving divorce for kids.

Surviving Divorce Caused By Infidelity

A divorce leads to emotional pain that is difficult to handle. It can also be a terrifying situation not only for you, but also for the entire family. There are people who, instead of filing a divorce, compromise because the fear of surviving after a divorce literally forces them to forgive their partner. And surviving divorce caused by infidelity is neither speedy nor an easy process. Infidelity causes irreparable damage to a relationship and recovering from it requires great mental strength.

Surviving divorce caused by infidelity is challenging, as you have to deal with feelings of isolation and loneliness. Here are some tips to help:

* You may find it hard to believe that your partner was unfaithful, dishonest and a womanizer. To help with the shock, spend more time with your family members and friends. They can offer support and comfort you because they care for you. Individual coaching and counseling can also help you to overcome from this situation. Try to remove isolated feelings from your mind and move on with your life. You can also join programs that will help you to regain your self worth, self-esteem and well-being.
* Instead of remembering old painful memories, you should move forward sensibly. Surviving divorce caused by infidelity means believing in your abilities as a single person. It is possible that your old friends may neglect you, but it is natural. Do not waste your time in thinking about the past instead try to rediscover yourself. You must accept that your relationship with your partner is over and assure your mind that there are some beautiful moments waiting in your remaining life. You should think of your future and enjoy every moment of it.
* Screaming, cursing, taunting or threatening your divorced partner is of no use. It will only spoil your health and will increase your medical expenses. There are some websites on the internet that can help you in surviving divorce caused by infidelity. These websites contain information that will help you to come out of this situation.
* It is essential that you maintain your health even after a divorce. Physical exercises instill a positive attitude; hence, you should practice them regularly to stay fit. Fitness assures emotional and physical survival of your body, which in turn promotes good health.
* Try to motivate yourself by reading autobiographies of great people and try to remove unhappy thoughts from your mind. Keep yourself busy, instead of staying alone at home. There is absolutely no need to get depressed or feel guilty, as you were loyal to your partner. After a divorce, you should try to remain calm and not get angry with yourself, as it was not your fault.

Although a divorce is disappointing, you should look at the positive aspects of the separation. It is but natural to feel hurt by a divorce that is caused by infidelity. If you are feeling lonely, you can try to build a new relationship. However, you should be very careful while making a new relationship and learn from your experiences. Make sure that you invest your time, energy and trust in the correct relationship.

Surviving Divorce And Separation

Many people dream about happy and long-lasting married life. However, after first few wonderful years, weeks or even days of married life, you may come across various differences between you and your partner that are beyond repair. The marital relationship starts to get disturbed due to conflicts and bitterness. Sometimes, everything goes beyond the limits of tolerance and you tend to think that you cannot stay together anymore.

Even after counseling by family members, friends and marriage counselors, if you both are determined to get separated, then the official process of separation starts. It may be quite stressful for you and your partner to go through the separation phase. Knowing about surviving divorce and separation can help you to be prepared for possible problems and complications after separation.

Here are some tips for comfortably surviving divorce and separation:

* Surviving divorce and separation is not easy at all. Divorce can give rise to some extreme changes in your personal and family life. Your family life may be very disturbed and it may be quite difficult for you to decide how to maintain your relationships with your parents-in-law.
* If you have children, then there may be a big issue about their guardianship. Your children may be frustrated due to the separation of parents. They may experience loneliness, and feelings of irritation may creep in. You need to convince your children that you both love them equally. In case you wish to remarry, you should take the plunge with the consent of your child.
* The main problem that both partners may face during the separation process and after divorce is financial insecurity. You should prepare yourself for the changes in income as well as expenses and dept handling after the divorce. You’ll need to develop a budget according to your needs. Keep in mind that your expenses should remain within the limits of post-divorce income. You should be able to manage your expenses with present income and for that, you should evaluate your needs.
* Divorce and separation can be very stressful for both the partners. Hence, you should be ready in all ways for surviving divorce and separation. After separation from your partner, you may feel very lonely and frustrated. However, you have to try to come out of this condition. For that, you can ask for help from your friends and family members. Their support will help you overcome the pressure. You can also get help from other relaxation techniques to relieve excess strain.
* Do not look at divorce as your failure, but take it as a new start. You can indulge in activities that are of interest. Do not frequently recall the unpleasant or sour memories of your married life.
* Do not let yourself feel low. Instead, boost your energy levels. You should also help your children get through this transition. Return to your work as early as possible as it can help you to come out of loneliness and frustration. Do not let traces of the past affect your present and try to make new friends.

Keep in mind that divorce is the end of marital relations, not your life. It is like a challenge; accept it with open arms and a broad mindset. A cheerful future is still waiting for you. So, be ready for surviving divorce and separation with great patience and hopes of some new beginnings.

Surviving Divorce And Building A New Life

Divorce is one of the most complicated challenges in life. You have to be ready to face the consequences that arise due to the divorce. Most people think that they might never be able to lead a normal life after divorce. It is very complicated to build up a new life after divorce and so you can seek help from your family members and friends for surviving divorce and building a new life.

After divorce, both partners face emotional and financial problems largely. Therefore, it is very important to think about your finances and expenses before the divorce proceedings commence. Usually, people tend to get irritated, their tempers soar high during the divorce process, and they suffer from depression for several years as well.

Many helpful resources can guide you for surviving divorce and building a new life:

* Your counselors and lawyers can help to build a new life after separation. You can discuss and solve your problems with them. They will tell you how to handle tough financial conditions after the divorce. One of the most important things about surviving a divorce is that you should never think that life comes to a standstill after divorce. If you feel awkward to start a new life, you can immediately inform your counselors who will definitely help you solve the problem.
* It is very sad that many people are not ready to face the complicated conditions that take place due to divorce. The standard of life of such people is reduced due to insufficient finances. If you want to start a new life after separation, it is better to make new relations that are superior to those you have had with your previous partner. You have to accept the changes taking place due to divorce so that you can make better relationships in your future life. Finding a new partner can lead you towards new happiness and experiences.
* It requires great patience and a positive state of mind to survive divorce and build a new life. And stability in life after divorce is one of the most important things to focus on when building a new life. You can stand on your own feet even after the divorce if you have your finances well planned out and your mindset is stable. You can create new schedules after separation to ensure your well-being and be optimistic.
* While thinking about surviving divorce and building a new life, you will need to think about the future of any children involved. It is better if you provide them emotional support, as only financial support is not enough.

You can learn new skills like dancing, painting or photography to build a new life after the divorce, if it seems difficult to live happily and peacefully. It will help you to keep yourself engaged in exciting activities and the frustration of the divorce will go away. You can also seek help from a divorce coach for surviving divorce and building a new life after it.

Surviving Divorce After An Abusive Marriage

Surviving divorce after an abusive marriage is extremely difficult for the entire family. Divorce hurts all the people in the family. And sometimes the wounds of divorce are deep and take years to heal.

While emotionally abusive marriages are difficult to explain, physically abusive marriage sometimes end in death. Hence it is necessary to understand the exact meaning of abuse: arguing and neglecting is not always considered abuse, being severely hurt physically or mentally is.

Threatening and calling names are also cases of verbal abuse, for example. Abuse may start when the couple tries to sort out an argument in a harsh manner.

Note that it is also extremely difficult to be a child of divorced parents. A simple argument between parents also greatly affects the emotional health of the child. Divorce destroys a relationship. The child feels scared, and the parents are disturbed emotionally. Depression is often a common symptom at such times. In fact, research shows that the action of parents after divorce often disturb children even more than the adults.

Abusive couples tend to express mainly three types of behavior: the parents are argumentative, cooperating or disengagement. And the action of the parents depends on the level of maturity of the people. Note the following points as well:

* Abusive relationships can sometimes be a result of one of the partners having experienced child abuse. Either the child was spoilt and had a habit of doing all the things, as he or she liked or an insecure childhood.
* You need to be extremely careful about how you behave with your child while surviving divorce after an abusive marriage. It is very hard for the child since his or her basic security is threatened and the child needs and seeks out both parents.
* Keep a cool and calm mind during difficult and disturbing situations and allow your children to meet your partner. Do not object or refuse. Children do not want to hear anything bad about any parent since they are equally loyal to both.
* A child will feel betrayed if you prohibit him or her from meeting your partner and will move away from you emotionally. Do not ask your child to give a message to the other parent. Do not bring the child between both of you in any way. Trying to change any legal arrangements will get your child confused.
* The most important tip while surviving divorce after an abusive marriage is to forget the past and to move ahead in life. Own up to your own faults and do not think about money and anger; instead focus on improving your own life.
* Anger and frustration can create many problems. Do not take out your anger on your child. Use your anger to make a difference for the better in the present and the future and get a counselor to help you in matters you cannot handle. It was nobody’s fault; it was just something that went wrong in your life. Take it as a lesson and learn from it. If you are finding it difficult to cope up with your present life then it is essential that you seek help. Try a divorce recovery class.

Support Groups For Surviving Divorce

Divorce can be a very painful and stressful period in person’s life and surviving divorce may be quite difficult. Some people may feel depressed and frustrated because of their failure in married life. Nobody tends to take the decision of separation all of a sudden. It may start with little misunderstandings and conflicts. When the bitterness crosses the limits of tolerance, the couple starts to think about divorce. However, separation may be very stressful for both partners as it can bring some extreme changes in an individual’s life. If you are undergoing the same situation, you can seek help of support groups for surviving divorce.

Divorce and separation can disturb your family and personal life. If you have kids, then the problem regarding their custody can arise. You should be able to convince your children about your separation; else, they will feel emotionally disturbed and frustrated. Financial instability is the main problem that both the partners face. Thus, divorce can lead to both physical and emotional disturbances.

You may feel lonely and frustrated; but you should try to overcome this condition. Joining support groups for surviving divorce is the best way to start a new life again. Your loved ones can act as a backbone in supporting you during this phase. You can share your worries and anxieties with them. If you are not comfortable with your family members and friends, you may find out divorce support groups for surviving divorce in your area.

* The support groups are an ideal place where you can share all your woes and they in turn offer support and encouragement to deal with the situation. You may get emotional support from people in the support groups who can understand your emotional stress. Sometimes various interesting activities take place in the support groups that help in diverting your mind from sorrow and grief.
* You can learn about how other people deal with their children through the support groups. You will be able to cope with the disappointment of parents as well as other family members. Support groups can encourage you to start over with new relationships.
* They can help you to understand and cope with financial burdens. These groups can make you aware about not signing the papers without consulting your lawyer. They can help you get knowledge of laws and rights. The discussions that take place in these groups also prove to be of great help as they serve an outlet for all your inner emotions.
* You can talk to your friends who have been divorced. Your telephone book may contain listings under Divorce, Counseling, Therapy or Mental Health Services. The "blue pages" of the local phone directory offers lists of government agencies and community services to check out, too.
* You can also ask your attorney to recommend local support groups. These groups can introduce you to the people who are able to understand your mental condition.

Joining support groups for surviving divorce can be quite helpful. They can allow you to break from unpleasant memories of the past and rebuild a beautiful life filled with new aspirations and wishes.

Overcoming Hurt and Rejection While Surviving Divorce

Life can undergo drastic changes after a divorce. In fact, the process of divorce as well as life after divorce may be quite stressful. You have to accustom yourself to manage everything as a single person. It includes change in job, shifting house, dealing with children and handling financial problems all over to you most often. In addition, the major problem you may face is the emotional disturbance. You may feel lonely and frustrated; you may be hurt and feel rejected. Hence, what you need is overcoming hurt and rejection while surviving divorce.

You have to recover from the sense of failure and losing your beloved one for overcoming hurt and rejection while surviving divorce. Although the marital relationship ends after the divorce, your emotional involvement with your partner may still exist. You may be deeply hurt while undergoing the painful process of divorce. You may be sometimes disturbed due to feelings of being rejected. This condition can leave you feeling depressed and frustrated. Therefore, first, you need to snap out of this condition to gain mental stability. And then:

* You have to strive for overcoming hurt and rejection while surviving divorce. Do not accept the idea of divorce as your failure, but take it as an opportunity to start your life afresh. Keep yourself engaged in your favorite activities and hobbies.
* Do not frequently recall the pleasant or bitter memories of your married life. You can seek help of meditation to relieve stress and gain mental peace. Do not feel inferior; rebuild your self-esteem.
* Return to your regular routine and work as soon as possible as this can help you to overcome loneliness and frustration. Leave your past behind and develop an active social life. Work proves to be a great diversion indeed.
* If you are finding it difficult to overcome this situation alone, you can seek help of your near and dear ones. They act as your pillars of strength and help you in overcoming hurt and rejection while surviving divorce. You can share your frustration, anger, loneliness and depression with them and try to get rid of it. They can encourage you to accept the situation and overcome it. You can talk to your friends who have undergone the experience of divorce.
* You can also seek help of divorce support groups in your area. People in a support group can understand your mental condition and can give you strong emotional support. You can learn about how other people deal with their children after divorce. People in the support groups can encourage you to start over with new relationships. They can help you to understand and cope with financial burdens.
* You can also seek professional counseling to help you. The counselor can give you suggestions about how to cope with the situation and overcome emotional disturbances.

You need turn inwards and rediscover yourself. Do not recollect the memories of previous married life; instead try to forget the negative past. Try to develop new relationships. Remarrying is another option which may offer you emotional and financial stability. Always keep in mind that divorce offers you an opportunity to start a new life with some new hope.

Financially Surviving Divorce

A divorce is a hard blow that can affect both spouses. Irrespective of the gender, financial problems are experienced after a divorce. This can be a major problem if you do not manage the finances properly. A divorce is more than an emotional separation, sometimes it can leave you financially devastated. To help with issues that may arise, here are some tips:

* When applying for a divorce, make sure that you have a valid reason, as surviving divorce financially afterwards can be a tough task. Going through a divorce can sometimes lead to financial instability; hence the divorce decision should not be taken lightly. A divorce can leave you in a financial ruin if you are not qualified enough to earn your livelihood.
* Women should document events such as verbal abuse, physical abuse and mental abuse. This will definitely help to strengthen their divorce case against their partner. If you are woman supporting children, then it is your legal right to demand money from your husband so that you are able to meet your expenses after the divorce to care for the young ones.
* Surviving a divorce is indeed a valid fear, if you are thinking of getting a divorce. Once you are sure that you want a divorce, decide how much money you will require to support yourself. Find out the amount of money that you actually have. If you have children and they are going to stay with you after the divorce, then calculate the additional living expenses you anticipate for your budget.
* You will have to change your lifestyle after a divorce, so that you can financially survive. If you are planning for a divorce then you should start saving cash bit by bit in case something happens unexpectedly. Stock your cash in some safe place. This money will help you to survive and you will be able a lead a respectable life.
* Based on your needs, develop a budget and analyze your post divorce income. In the budget list your monthly as well as annual expenses; this will help you to determine whether you can financially survive after a divorce.
* You should also decrease your liabilities and establish credit of your own, if you do not have credit already. You should also create your own saving and checking accounts. And before you apply for divorce, the most important thing is that you must clear your mutual debt. Know exactly what financial losses or gains you will face after a divorce.

In order to avoid long-term financial problems, it is necessary that you plan accordingly before taking a divorce. Your standard of living may drop as your monthly income decreases after the divorce. You can ask your friends who may give you some tips about financially surviving divorce.

Financially surviving divorce involves keeping your expenses reasonable and finding out your sources of income. You should also have knowledge about your financial holdings and the assets. When negotiating a divorce settlement, check whether the house is bought in your name. You can also seek professional help of a financial analyst who can tell you more about financially surviving divorce. He or she may also be able to assist you in cutting down your litigation and other related costs.